On change…Are you the rock in the river?

On change…Are you the rock in the river?

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If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
-Wayne Dyer

In life, one thing is certain: things can’t and won’t remain the same. Change will happen-like it or not.

Here’s the thing-like a rock in a river, we consistently resist the natural progression of the flow of life. It is simple human nature to seek what we know- even when things aren’t good.

We stay in bad situations, hoping that good will come. We ruminate about the past, ignoring the present. And we resist the future, clinging to comfort.

If this sounds like you, there is one big thing you can do to learn to deal with change.

Ask yourself this one question…

Am I looking at this situation honestly? Chances are you aren’t. You’re probably looking at it from an altered perspective.

When we resist change, we lie to ourselves to avoid feelings of discomfort. That’s because seeing the truth is a scary thing. We twist and bend reality in an attempt to hang on to what we know.

In order to move through whatever change we face, we must embrace it head on with brutal honesty. This means looking at whatever situation you are resisting with a new set of eyes.

I know this seems scary, but think of it this way… You don’t know what the universe has in store for you. Change could lead to something bigger and better than anything you had ever imagined.

The truth is that in order to embrace change, we must find the courage to accept what is-right here, right now. This means realizing that the only thing you may be able to control is how you react. You can’t control what anyone else does, but you can control how much power you allow any given situation to have over your life.

So how do you do this?

Mindfulness is the key to this process. When we calmly sit with what is, we arm ourselves with the power of acceptance. It may not come easily, but it will come in time. And through this, the fear of change will dissolve.

In addition, we must also practice gratitude. Gratitude can truly work magic in life. Sometimes being thankful for change is all it takes to move the mind into a more peaceful place.

The takeaway from this message is that you must change what you can and accept the rest. At the end of the day, all you have is your own take on life. Make it a perspective that empowers you.

To your mindfulness,

Dr. Marchand

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